Planning a bachelorette party can be stressful to the max, especially when you have a million other things on your plate.


No matter how busy you are though, you want to make sure you throw the perfect party for your beloved bride to be.


You're in charge of the shirts, the decorations, the bookings, the itinerary, the budget, the gifts, the games, and about everything else in between.

Where the heck do you even start?


Planning doesn’t have to be so stressful if you just start by breaking down the big things, then figuring out those little details as you get closer to the party.


Here are the 5 things to do first when planning a bachelorette party:

1. Pick your dates


Picking out dates that will work for everyone is probably the most annoying part, but if no one can be there, the bride to be is probably not going to be very happy with you.


The earlier you can get this on the schedule, the better. Ask your bride right away when she’s thinking about getting married and when she would want her bachelorette party. You don’t need to have any other details planned out, but find a time where you can all cross out the dates on the calendar.

2. Create a budget


Although the bachelorette party is all about the bride, don’t make the other girls and their bank accounts hate you along the way. Be realistic about everyone’s budgets. What season of life are most of you in? If you aren’t sure if someone would be willing to pay a certain amount, maybe reach out and ask them what they would be comfortable contributing.


Once you have your set number (which can be an estimate at first), get creative and make the most of it.


There are tons of ways to make any budget work, but first, just make sure everyone is okay with paying, then start working on breaking it down and maximizing it.


3. Pick a destination


Once you have your budget set, now it’s time to pick out your destination. Are you wanting to stay local? Go across the country? Get familiar with how expensive each place is going to be.


Don’t just pick a place off the top of your head. Do some research about their food, places to stay, nightlife, and other fun things to do. You also need to know how much each of these things is going to cost. Don't forget to check how quickly certain places book up!


4. Create your theme

To knock the bachelorette party out of the park, pick a theme. Everyone will LOVE this. This will help you not have another basic bachelorette party, and your bride will love it even more if you pick a theme that she is obsessed with.


Pick something you know the bride absolutely loves and center her weekend around that. You can literally do anything, but here are some ideas to get you started:

  • Country

  • Specific decade

  • TV show or movie - my personal favorite themes are Mean Girls or Friends

  • Beach

  • Barbie

  • Sailing

The sky is the limit with themes, and having one will help you find more unique decorations and make the night one to remember, so get CREATIVE! You can design your shirts, decorations, slogan, games, and signature drinks all based on your theme!


Pinterest is the BEST place to get theme ideas!




5. Plan your activities

Now it’s time to plan out exactly what you’re going to do spending the weekend doing.

No matter what you want to do, your plan should be what the bride would enjoy doing.

Does she want to spend the whole weekend drinking? Perfect, that’s what you should do. Would she rather go to a chill winery and get a little tipsy with the girls? Perfect, that’s what you should do. Does she really not like the drinking scene and would rather go to a fun class (cooking, painting, pottery, etc.)? Perfect, that’s what you should do.


YOU DO WHAT THE BRIDE WOULD WANT TO DO.

Plan a couple of big activities, then take some time to come up with your fillers (especially if it is a multiple-day trip!)


If these activities need to be booked in advance, book them as soon as you have your dates set!

These are just some of the basics when planning a bachelorette party. Stay tuned for more specific ideas and detail breakdowns that you’re going to want to know for your big party! 💍

There’s a simple rule that so many of us grew up hearing: if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. It’s really a basic concept, yet our society has somehow completely forgotten what it means to be nice to each other.


In a world of social media arguments, politics, cancel culture, unrealistic standards, and so much more, most people seem to have forgotten that one simple rule. People say and post things without even considering the weight of their words.


It’s not just the online world that is struggling to follow this simple rule. It’s friendships, relationships, and even how we talk to ourselves.


So let’s take this rule we all learned as kids and apply it to parts of our grown up lives… because it’s time to start being nice again and learning to have a simple filter.

Relationships:


It’s easy to get too comfortable in your relationships. If you’re in a serious relationship, I hope you and your partner are honest with each other about how you feel; however, I think we can sometimes be too honest and can say things in a hurtful way without even realizing it.


Your partner is going to do things that get under your skin. Heck, I’ve had times that I want to yell at Jake just because of the way he’s eating his cereal.


We’ve gotta learn to still be kind to each other even though we are comfortable with our partners. Find ways to cool off if you’re irritable. Tell your partner that you need a little space because you’re feeling a little moody.


Your partner is never your punching bag.



Yourself:


It took me a long time to apply the golden rule to how I talk to myself. You have to understand this: the way you talk to yourself MATTERS.


Let me say that again: THE WAY YOU TALK TO YOURSELF MATTERS.


I have always been my biggest critic.


I would pick apart every single picture I was in.

I would wake up and notice countless flaws when I looked in the mirror.

I would tell myself how lazy I was for not being motivated to work out.

I would beat myself up for eating an unhealthy meal.

I would constantly think about something embarrassing I did months ago.


This is something I’ve been working on a lot lately. Every time I start thinking like this, I ask myself, would I ever say that to a friend?


Would I ever point out that her arm looks a little bigger from that angle in a picture? Would I ever tell her how dumb she was for bombing a test? Would I ever intentionally say anything that I knew would hurt her feelings and confidence? No.


There’s a difference between being your biggest critic and being your biggest bully.


It’s okay to be tough on yourself and have high expectations. It’s not okay to never give yourself grace and never learn to actually love yourself.


Be kind to others and yourself.



Social media:


If your feed is anything like mine these days, it’s exhausting. Politics and COVID have everyone's tensions sky-high.


Here’s the thing: we all have different opinions about so many different things. We always have. Now it’s just easier than ever to broadcast your opinions and hide behind a screen while telling people why their opinion is wrong... I’m here to tell you, you aren’t changing their opinions.


No matter how right you think you are, people probably aren’t going to change what they think over a social media argument.


It's okay to have different beliefs about things. It can actually be really awesome to learn about people's opinions. You can still respect them even if they're different from yours.


If you need to, unfriend or mute people who only add drama to your feed. If you have the urge to snap back at someone on social media, get off your phone. Take some time to think about it. If you still want to say something to them, consider sending them a DM instead.


Just because it’s on social media doesn’t mean it’s not rude. I know half the things I see on my feed would never be said in person. Stop hiding behind your phones, and don’t say something if your main objective is to be mean, degrading, or argumentative. That comment or post can end up haunting you in the long run.


And don't even think that commenting something rude on someone's social media is okay. Even if they're famous, viral, or you don't know them, they are still human too.



Strangers:


I don't know why it's so easy for us to judge someone without even knowing them. We're all guilty of saying something mean about someone across the room that we don't know.


Don't say anything at all. Even if you aren't saying something right to their face, you still shouldn't say something mean about them to your friends.


You have no idea what their story is. Strangers are people with feelings just like you and me.

In a mean world, be the nice one. Do whatever you have to do to just be kind and think before you say something.

I am so excited that fall is FINALLY here! I absolutely love when I start seeing people incorporate all things into their wedding!


To help you plan your perfect fall wedding, I have included my favorite fall signature drinks, favors, florals, and table decor! 🍁


Signature Drinks:


Jalapeno Moscow Mule

  • Vodka

  • Ginger beer

  • Roses lime juice

  • Garnish: Fresh lime and jalapeno slice

Apple of My Eye

  • Crown Apple

  • Cranberry/Apple Juice

  • Sprite

  • Garnish: Apple slice, fresh cranberry, and lime

Spiked Warm Apple Cider

  • Bourbon

  • Salted Caramel Moonshine

  • Warm Apple Cider

  • Garish: Cinnamon Stick and apple slice

Whiskey Arnold Palmer

  • Jack Daniels

  • Sweet Tea

  • Lemonade

  • Sprite

  • Garnish: Lemon for garnish

Pomegranate Margarita

  • Blanco/Silver Tequila

  • Orange Liqueur

  • Pomegranate Juice

  • Sweet and Sour

  • Sprite

  • Garnish: Lime and Fresh Pomegranate for garnish

Favors:

  • S'mores Making Kit

  • Mini Pies

  • Cider or Hot Cocoa Mix

  • Jars of Honey, Jam, or Syrup

  • Mini Pumpkins (which could also double as place setting decorations!)

Florals:

  • Pampas grass

  • Protea

  • Hanging amaranthus

  • Roses (tan and peach garden are our favorite!)

  • Eucalyptus

Table Decor:

  • LOTS of greenery

  • Candlesticks

  • Lanterns

  • Pumpkins (We love white and light green ones!)

  • Geometric vases

There are so many awesome ways to incorporate fall into your wedding, and we hope this post helped! Happy planning!



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